If you have made mistakes, even serious mistakes, you may have a fresh
start any moment you choose, for this thing we call "failure" is not
the falling down, but the staying down.
Mary Pickford
Today's
Inspirational Story
10 Ways to Bring More Growth into Your Life
It's spring planting season--and time to transform your life as well.
Here's how to start 'repotting' to achieve your dreams. By Diana Holman and Ginger Pape
Just as gardeners look for ways to promote growth in their
garden, so, too, do people look for ways to bring more growth into
their lives. Repotting is our term for how those who have outgrown the
pot or container of their daily lives, are transplanting themselves
into a larger growth environment. What happens to a beautiful,
flowering plant that outgrows its container? If you don’t repot
it, eventually it withers and dies. Our book, Repotting: 10 Steps for Redesigning Your Life
shows you how to rejuvenate your life by following our step-by-step
process. No matter what your age, stage of life, or circumstances,
you can benefit from the repotting process and philosophy. ( Take the Repotting Test to see if you're ready for a change.)
Here are 10 ways that to bring more growth into your life as spring approaches:
1. Rethink Your Landscape. Adopting a new
perspective is the first step to successful repotting. Just as some
plants need a different environment if they are to thrive, you need to
start thinking in new ways, too. Ask yourself: What is really important
to me? What trade-offs do I need to make to bring more light and
meaning into my personal garden? What will bring color to my
landscape? For example, if you are constantly traveling for work,
but missing important family activities and milestones, you could
revisit career/family priorities, and after consulting with colleagues
and supervisors, make adjustments to your travel schedule.
2. Realize That Planting Is a Process. Slow
down and create time in your schedule to research new avenues for
personal growth. Don’t be afraid of empty spaces. A friend of ours who
cut back on her schedule immediately filled the open time slots with
new activities. Remember to let “fallow beds” lie—don’t fill up your
free time until you know what you really want to do.
3. Weed Your Garden. Take a disciplined approach
to finding more time in your day for activities that offer
opportunities for growth. Make a list of the “must do activities,” then
eliminate non-essentials from your day or week. A woman who ran a
successful event-planning firm cut back on the number of clients she
handled in order to make time in her life for painting classes and
choral singing—two long-lost passions.
4. Let in More Light. Your true gifts may be
languishing for lack of sun. In order to grow and change, you’ll need
to open your mind to new possibilities, set goals that challenge you,
and take some risks. A lawyer we talked to was offered a partnership in
her firm. Instead of following the safe path she had pursued, she
opened up to explore a completely different lifestyle--that of becoming
a pastry chef. Ultimately she quit her job, giving up financial
security in favor of a less constraining life.
5. Tend Your Garden Regularly. Whatever you
choose to undertake—whether it’s building a new career, volunteering,
or pursuing a new hobby—do something on a daily basis to make progress.
Be fully committed, so that distractions won’t take your energy away
from the tasks necessary to achieve your goal. A woman who wanted to
use her spare time to do personal writing found herself distracted by
TV programs--until she decided to unplug the set from Friday to Monday.
6. Cultivate Your Dreams. To repot successfully,
you need to let your mind run free to entertain new concepts, ideas and
avenues. Unleash your creative side by visualizing a new future
for yourself. A mother of four, who had spent 20 years raising
children, allowed herself to visualize a new identity. In the
process of helping an exchange student living in her home, she
discovered a talent for counseling troubled youth. She allowed her
imagination to take her beyond her current role of stay-at-home mother
to that of a therapist for adolescents.
7. Water Your Roots. Find the core values that
motivate you. Make sure the life you are living is in sync with your
deepest values and priorities. If not, see what you can do to
realign it. Let’s say you feel the lack of spirituality in your life,
but aren’t sure how to find it. For two of our repotters, the
answer to spiritual fulfillment lay in serving non-profit community
organizations. Two others, however, took a religious
path: one started a Bible study group, and the other entered
seminary and was later ordained.
8. Don’t Forget Fertilizer. When you expand
your knowledge, you expand your options. For personal growth, ongoing
learning is crucial. You can seek self-enrichment in a variety of
ways and venues, whether to pursue a hobby or gain new credentials for
a career. The stimulation of learning fosters new growth and change—and
acquiring knowledge and skills can happen at any age. A middle-aged
stock market analyst decided to go back to school for an M.B.A. so that
she could start an entrepreneurial venture with her grown daughter.
9. Plant a Sample Bed. Until you try a plant
in your own personal garden, you won’t know for sure if the conditions
are right for growth. If they’re not, you can always rip it out
and start again. Embrace trial and error. A woman running her own real
estate appraisal company took training to see if she would like to
become a massage therapist. While she enjoyed the nurturing aspect
of this profession, she realized she couldn’t do it fulltime. She
continues to run her company and sees massage clients on weekends.
10. Get Input from Other Gardeners. Tap into your
network—family members, friends and colleagues—who may be able to give
you feedback, advice, information and emotional support along your
journey. As you benefit from the advice of others, you may also find
that you’re helping someone else along the way. Among the many
blessings of repotting are the social relationships you build along the
way. An accountant we met wanted to change fields. She
consulted her family, professional friends, and people who had known
her throughout her life. This research reconnected her with
long-lost friends, deepening current friendships and building new,
rewarding relationships in her new field.
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